Preparing Older Siblings for the Arrival of a New Baby

Bringing a new baby into the family is such a special and emotional time — not just for you, but for any older siblings too. It’s a huge adjustment, and it's completely normal for little ones (and even bigger ones!) to experience a mixture of excitement, confusion, and even worry about what life will look like.

At Beyond the Bump, we believe that preparing siblings gently and realistically can make a big difference .Here’s how you can help older children feel secure, included, and loved as you grow your family:

Here's some things you can do that will help in preparing older siblings for a new baby:

Talk Early and Often

Begin talking about the new baby in age-appropriate ways as soon as you feel ready. Keep it simple and honest: explain that the baby will need a lot of cuddles and care, but that your love for them will stay just as big.

Involve Them when Preparing Older Siblings for a New Baby

Let siblings help prepare for the baby — choosing a special toy, helping pack your hospital bag, or picking a coming-home outfit.Feeling involved can ease feelings of being 'left out' and make them feel proud of their new role.

Read Books About Becoming a Big Brother or Sister

There are some beautiful children’s books written to help explain pregnancy and new siblings.Reading together can open up conversations, answer worries, and help them picture life with a baby.

Plan for the First Meeting

When it’s time to introduce your older child to the new baby, try to make it a gentle, positive experience. Some families like to have the baby in a cot or moses basket, so that the older child can approach on their own terms rather than seeing the baby in someone's arms.Having a small 'gift from the baby' to the sibling can also help smooth that first moment.

Acknowledge Their Feelings

It's normal for older children to feel a whole range of emotions.Encourage them to express how they're feeling — whether that's excitement, anger, jealousy, or sadness. Acknowledging these feelings with empathy ("It’s okay to feel cross sometimes") builds trust and helps them process.

Maintain Routines Where You Can

Life will inevitably change with a newborn, but keeping familiar routines — like bedtime stories or a weekend walk — can offer your older child a reassuring sense of stability.

Offer Extra Cuddles

Never underestimate the power of simple one-on-one time. A few minutes here and there, even just cuddling on the sofa or chatting while the baby sleeps, reminds them they’re still just as important and cherished.

At Beyond the Bump, we understand that growing your family is a beautiful and emotional time. Inside The Birth & Baby Academy, we have an entire module on preparing siblings for the arrival of a new baby — packed with practical tips, emotional support strategies, and evidence-led advice to help the whole family adjust with love and confidence.

You might also find our free video, Taking Control of Your Birth, a helpful place to start if you’re looking for tools to feel empowered and calm about your upcoming birth.

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