Navigating the Heartbreak: A Journey through Miscarriage, Fertility Issues, and Baby Loss

At Beyond the Bump , we know that not every journey to parenthood is straightforward, having both personally experienced baby loss & fertility struggles and treatment . Sometimes, the path is filled with heartache, loss, and unanswered questions. If you have experienced miscarriage, fertility struggles, or baby loss, we want you to know that you are not alone — and you are not forgotten.

This blog is here to walk alongside you with compassion, providing information, support, and reassurance.

Miscarriage: Understanding the Loss

Miscarriage is heartbreakingly common, affecting around one in four pregnancies in the UK. It can happen for many reasons — most often due to genetic changes that occur by chance. It is rarely because of anything you did or didn’t do.

Experiencing a miscarriage can feel isolating and overwhelming. You may experience a range of emotions: sadness, anger, guilt, numbness — or all of them at once.It’s important to allow yourself to grieve in your own way and time.

If you need support, some helpful UK-based organisations include:

Tommy’s – information and support after miscarriage and baby loss.
The Miscarriage Association – support groups, helplines, and advice.
Sands (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity) – bereavement support.

There is no right or wrong way to process loss. Every feeling you have is valid.

Fertility Struggles: A Silent Grief

Struggling to conceive can be an invisible and lonely grief. When month after month brings disappointment, the toll can be emotional, physical, and financial.You might feel disconnected from friends who are announcing pregnancies, or feel frustration at your own body.

In the UK, you are entitled to ask your GP for fertility testing if you have been trying for a year (or six months if you are over 35). You may also be referred to fertility services for further support.

Organisations like Fertility Network UK offer free help, forums, and advice.

At Beyond the Bump, we hold space for the reality that getting to pregnancy isn’t always simple — and that every path is valid and deserving of support.

Baby Loss: Grieving a Life Loved

Whether your loss occurred early or late in pregnancy, or after birth, it matters deeply.The love you had — and still have — is real, and so is the grief.

In the UK, there are specialised bereavement midwives in many hospitals who can help support you after loss. You can also access counselling, peer support, and specialist services like:

Sands UK (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Charity)
Tommy’s Baby Loss Support Line
The Lullaby Trust (support after sudden infant death)

You are entitled to compassionate, ongoing care. Please know you don't have to carry this alone.

Healing at Your Own Pace

Grieving after miscarriage, fertility struggles, or baby loss is not linear. Some days may feel gentler, others unbearably raw. Take the time you need.Accept help when you can. Seek connection when you're ready. And always, always be gentle with yourself.

At Beyond the Bump, we offer specialised support to walk alongside you, wherever you are in your healing journey.

Our Birth Debrief sessions are a safe, compassionate space where you can talk through your experience — whether your loss was early, late, or after birth.

We also offer Birth Trauma Therapy, a gentle, trauma-informed approach that can support those processing fertility struggles, miscarriage, or baby loss.

You deserve space to feel heard, supported, and held.